Wednesday, May 27, 2009
Wifey's Weekly Q and A
My husband and some of the guys went out over the weekend. He told me that one of his friends, who is dating one of my friends, was flirting with a girl at the bar. I feel like she should know. I don’t want my husband to be mad at me, but we girls have to stick together right? Should I tell?
- Mrs. Tempted to Tell
Dear Mrs. Tempted to Tell:
No, you shouldn’t tell unless you never want your husband to tell you anything again. I’m all for female camaraderie, but “pillow talk” between you and your husband should stay private between you and your husband. Clearly he gave you a “wife pass” and shared some of the guys’ happenings with you believing that whatever he says to you stays with you. You should be the one person that he doesn’t have to worry about breaking his confidence and vice versa.
And, why does she need to know that? Human beings flirt – even married ones. Gasp! It’s when people take it too far that it’s a problem, ahem, but that’s another post. Unless you are told something that you’re certain puts your friend in danger – at which point you should talk openly with your husband about diffusing the situation – then you should keep his secrets, no matter how tempting, to yourself.
Winks & Smiles,
How about you? Do you keep your husband’s secrets or are you quick to gab to the girls? Wives – and husbands – want to know …
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