Husband's Holiday Cheat Sheet
Thursday, December 10, 2009
Wifey's Weekly Q and A
Dear Wifey:
I love my husband but he didn’t pick out good Christmas presents for me last year. This is our first Christmas married and I would really love to get something that I might actually like. He hasn’t asked, but I want to give him a list. Is that wrong?
- Mrs. Wish List
Dear Mrs. Wish List:
No, it is not wrong to give your husband a “wish list” or "cheat sheet" to steer him in the right direction. Not everyone was born with a fabulous-shopping gene so feel free to help him out; just make sure you don’t insult him or let him know how bad he bombed last year. The last thing you want to do is crush his ego. Suggest that you both make wish lists to make things easier on each other. If he’s not a shopper he’ll probably welcome the idea leaving the two of you less stressed and much happier as you open presents, that you'll truly enjoy, under the tree.
Winks & Smiles,
How about you? Do you help Husband with hints for your holiday gifts? Wondering wives want to know ...
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7 comments:
You could say that I help him. It's like this in our house:
Hubby: "What do you want? Just tell me."
Me: "Here's my list. I'll take anything from it."
An alternative is to leave pictures as hints. For instance, I left a jewelry catalog out when we were dating with the ring I wanted circled.
Boy does that ring look great on my hand! ;-)
Great post....I just posted a list of simple, inexpensive, and practical gifts for guys if you're stumped.
Tamara
www.theunexperiencedmom.com
as you'll see in my last post..I did the unthinkable this year and just told him what I wanted...lol It is working out perfectly and I am so excited for my gift! Sometimes, if there is something you are really looking forward to getting it's best to just say it, as much as surprises are nice...sometimes men just don't get it and you end up disappointed.
I tell my middle daughter what I want and where he can go to get it and then she takes him to that exact store and shows him. She'll even tell him how much money to take with him. My husband has no sense of gift giving. So it works good this way or he'll just give me money and that's fine too.
Mrs. Cooper, I like your approach because you're not giving him the list yourself. My daughter is too young for that now, but I plan to use that system in the future!
Currently we don't exchange holiday gifts. Our anniversary is right before Christmas, so he usually gets me something for that. I would like for him to take me shopping and to lunch...that would be a fun gift.
I told my husband exactly what i want this year. I want a BlackBerry Smartphone. I don't usually tell him what I want for Christmas, but I want one so bad that i started dropping hints around October!
I am known to drop hints (frequent hints) *haha* or leave little "note to self" tabs laying on the coffee table so that he just so happens to read it.
But I think in today's economy, making a wish list would be much more beneficial. I am definitely going to approach my husband with the idea tonight. Adding in the addendum that we can both get each other 1 thing that is not on the list that we would really like to get for one another. That way he doesn't know that my "wish list" is really a "these are the things I want...not a kitchen appliance" list. How does that sound?
Plus you never know, your husband might be thinking the same exact thing and not know how to approach the subject.
Well said! In our house we pretty much buy our own gifts, since there've been too many disappointments... I'm jealous of couples who seem to know each other so well they know exactly what to get one another, but for some reason that doesn't seem to work for us.
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